About Me

My name is Shelly. Since May 2011 I have lost 85 pounds, and I am still working hard to make it at least an even 100 pounds! I hope that by reading my blog, people struggling with similar issues will be inspired – because if I can do this, anyone can!

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I have three children who are all in college, Amanda is 27, Brianna is 22, and Matthew is 20. I met my husband Michael in 2004 and we got married in 2007. Below is a picture of me with my family from Christmas 2013.

My Family in 2013

My Family in 2013

We moved from Southern California to Seattle almost four years ago due to Michael’s job.  I have struggled with my weight for decades due to hypothyroidism, which was made worse by yo-yo dieting and ineffective/unhealthy diet fads.  I put myself through ten years of college as a divorced single parent of three (I have an M.A. in Psychology & Social Behavior/Social Ecology from the University of California, Irvine) and I work for the University of Washington. I was born and raised Mormon, and even though I have not been active in the church most of my adult life, it has profoundly influenced me and my perspective so I feel it is important to mention.

When I started boot camp classes, I kept a journal every day and posted progress updates often on Facebook. I did the same thing when I started running and doing yoga.  I had tremendous hope for weight loss success, but in my wildest imagination I never dreamed where this journey would actually take me, all the challenges and obstacles I would face, and especially that anyone (other than my family and close friends) would be interested in any of it.

After numerous “how did you do it” questions, and especially after I set a significant and highly challenging new goal to achieve, I thought it might be a useful tool to help others to create a blog about my experiences.  I have compiled my journal entries, Facebook posts/comments, and iPhone app data and notes into this blog to share my weight loss and “journey to fitness” story and to also chronicle my training and preparation efforts to accomplish my goal to finish the Tenzing Hillary Everest Marathon in May 2017, which is the month I turn 50!

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For those who would like to know more about me, I will be constructing several “about me” pages to explain my background and goals in greater detail.  I sincerely hope everyone who reads my blog will find something to relate to about me, and will find the strength within to pursue what was thought to be impossible.

My blog name Nowhere Girl comes from the title of my very most favorite song, a new-wave “one-hit wonder” from the early 80s by the group B Movie. They never made an official video for the song (MTV was still rather new in 1982), but there are various videos on You Tube people have made for the song over the years, and this is one of them:

There is about 3 minutes of instrumental introduction before they actually start singing the lyrics, and this music actually epitomizes everything I love about 80s New Wave! The lyrics have always been personally meaningful, describing me as a troubled teenager in the middle of my parents bitter divorce, on up through multiple challenges in my adult life where I have coped in a “self-enforced exile” that I’m sure has often frustrated close friends and family.

Nowhere girl, you’re living in a dream
Nowhere girl, you stay behind the scenes
Nowhere girl, you never go outside
Nowhere girl, because you prefer to hide

Every day, every night
In that old familiar light
You hung up when I called you at home
And I try to get through
And I try to talk to you
But there’s something stopping me
From getting through

Nowhere girl, what you have you need
Nowhere girl, all functional and neat
Nowhere girl, in self enforced exile
Nowhere girl, a martyr like denial

Every day, every night
In that old familiar light
You hung up when I called you at home
And I try to get through
And I try to talk to you
But there’s something stopping me from getting through

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Please feel free to contact me with any feedback or questions from the link in the menu bar above.  It was a difficult decision for me to make before pictures public and to reveal some very personal (and embarrassing) details of my life in this fitness journey. I did so in order to provide realistic perspective about what it took to get where I am today, and thus am not shy and also not easily offended.  However, please understand that I am not a licensed personal trainer or a medical doctor, so all I can offer is my opinion, advice, and perspective – which I am happy to do.  I will respond to anyone who contacts me, but may not be able to answer questions about specific medical conditions or training issues other than giving advice about what I might do, and I utterly insist that you check with licensed experts before implementing anything I suggest or have written about in my blog.  

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